Sunday, April 27, 2014

Some Thoughts on Friendship

I know I haven't written here much (hello, Captain Obvious!), and I hate to write about something negative. But I am just so bothered that I need to vent out just a little bit.

You see, I am reading a novel about this 23 year old girl who has no problems developing meaningful friendships with people she meet. Of course it helps that she is described as gorgeous, kind hearted and all that. And of course it is a fictitious novel. But seriously, does it ever occur in real life? If it does, then I am missing out a lot. 

I am 34 and try as I might, I have a hard time developing new friendships. I still believe in the old adage to make new friends and keep the old, but sometimes I feel i have drifted a bit too far from my high school and college friends. Sure, we still keep in touch and we see each other a couple of times a year, but I crave for a friend to share my everyday goings-on with, in real time. The closest I have is my sister and my mom, and although I am grateful, it makes me think if there is something wrong with me that I can't have a close friend who is not my immediate family. 

Add to all these musings, I see a couple of my college org friends met up last night. Their happy get-together photos are all posted in FB, and I am so saddened that I wasn't even invited. I thought myself to be their friend and I would have loved to catch up with them. I guess the feeling isn't mutual.

So, aside from being related, being classmates or from the same school/course/organization, how else do you befriend someone? From the workplace is a definite out for a homemaker like me. Any suggestions? I need a break from the pity party I am enduring right about now.